Simple Things Couples Can Do to Grow Closer
When couples are still in the early phases of a relationship, it can seem effortless. But once that phase wears off, the truth is, building a strong relationship takes work. While building your relationship may not always be easy, there are some fun, simple things you and your partner can do together to help you enhance your bond and feel closer to each other along the way:
Keep Learning about Each Other
Part of the fun and excitement of the early stages of a relationship is learning about your partner (their interests, their favorite movies/songs, etc.) Even after couples have been together for years, partners can still continue to learn about each other, though. One way to do this is to set aside time to sit together and take turns asking each other questions to learn more about your partner and start conversation. There are various apps and card games out there that can provide questions for partners to ask each other, but you can also make up your own questions. These questions can be as simple as “What is a song on the radio right now you like?” to deeper questions such as “What is a current fear you have?” In addition to asking these questions, asking follow-up questions after your partner responds can also help you show interest and encourage them to continue sharing.
Below are some links to examples of card decks and apps that may be helpful:
Try New Activities Together
Trying a new activity together that neither of you have done before can be a great bonding experience. Taking a class, learning a new skill, or exploring a new city are a few examples of activities you can experience as a first together. Depending on what the activity is, there may be some nerves or fears around trying something new. Having your partner there to experience this with you can help calm your nerves and encourage you to be brave in trying something new. Plus, you are creating a great memory you can look back on and reminisce about together!
Work on a Project Together
Whether it’s a chore around the house or planning a get-together with friends, working together as a team towards a shared goal can help bring you closer together. The process is a great opportunity to spend quality time together, and you can celebrate your accomplishment together afterwards.
Set Future Goals
Set goals and make plans together as a couple, such as planning a vacation you have always wanted to go on or making a vision board about what your future home will look like. Sharing your dreams and goals with each other can help you feel closer to your partner through planning your future together.
Be Present with Each Other
Life can often get hectic and it is easy to become distracted when you are supposed to be spending time with your partner. Be intentional about setting aside some time each week where phones are put away and TVs are turned off and you are spending time just being present with your partner. This could be at home or out to dinner at your favorite restaurant. It doesn’t really matter what you are doing, as long as you are giving each other your undivided attention and sharing a positive experience together.