Surviving the Holidays as a Couple

The holiday season can be a joyful and exciting time of year, but it can also be stressful for many, including for couples. Below are some tips to help you and your partner thrive during the holidays and grow as a couple, even when you're feeling busy and stressed.

Keep Communicating

Even though you and your partner may be busy and running from event to event this season, make sure to still communicate in the midst of the chaos. Schedule a regular short time each week to check-in with each other to make sure you are on the same page regarding your schedule and any tasks that need to be completed, to express your appreciation for each other, etc.

What Kind of Support Do You Each Need?

The holidays can be a difficult time for many, whether it is due to stress related to family dynamics, grieving the loss of a loved one, or just the everyday stress that can come with this time of the year. Discuss with your partner what kind of support you may need during this time, as well as open a space for your partner to share with you what kind of support you can offer them.

Start a New Holiday Ritual

The holidays can be a great time to create a new ritual you can do together as a couple each year at this time. Whether it's decorating the tree together or watching holiday movies at home, trying a new activity can bring some excitement, meaning, and connection to your relationship.

Work in Some Quality Time

Within the busyness of the season, make sure to still set aside some time for you and your partner to be present with each other. This can be as little as a few minutes a day, just as long as it is time that is solely devoted to each other and your relationship with as little outside distractions as possible.

If you and your partner would like some support in navigating the stress of the holidays, couples counseling can be a safe place to do this work. A couples therapist can help facilitate a discussion on how you and your partner can each support each other and make the holidays a meaningful experience for you both.